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Life is full of small everyday decisions, one following the other in a never ending loop. We more or less consciously decide what to wear, whether to drive or walk, what the children should wear, whether or not to drop by the gym, what to have for dinner, boots or runners, chocolate or carrot, news or soap, etc. Eventually the decisions we make form patterns that turn into habits that ultimately represent our way of life. |
Sometimes we make major decisions such as where to work, who to marry, where to live, whether to have children, and the like. This constitutes the greater frame of reference within which we make our day-to-day decisions. Of course our aspirations and opportunities vary greatly but given a set of circumstances we are free to form our own lives, to some extent, both in the big and small scale of reference.
Once in a while we need to make some major decision that will affect our big frame of reference; namely family, work and home. Something isn’t working well – and we need to break out of a relationship, change jobs or move. Changes like this are generally painful and very easy to put off, even though staying in an unsatisfactory situation can be quite unhealthy. We might experience periods of tiredness, low energy and even depression, due to our resistance to change.
Sooner or later we reach the turning point where it is better to act even though it might be terrifying!
Before making a major change like this we better make sure it is the right one. There are many ways in which we could make sure we are doing the right thing, but my angle would be to analyze the situation thoroughly and make some bold priorities! I believe that some of the characteristics of a true Dynamic decision are confidence that we’re making the right decision, a surge of energy and feelings of optimism. These decisions might very well be brave and innovative, and move in the direction of simplifying our life.
As you might have guessed by now, I’ve recently made a Dynamic decision myself. In accordance with my husband I’ve decided to quit my job to be a full time wife, mother and housekeeper. I will also explore some ideas I have, and hopefully have plenty of time to pursue our home improvement projects (now in more of a DIY fashion, obviously), and write about it here. For a period of time now my main function will be *feeling energy rushing* tending to my Home and Family.
As any Dynamic decision it involves sacrifice and taking a leap into the unknown. It is a bit scary, but it has to be done. When the alternative is some situation known to be unsatisfactory, and in the end harmful to both the health and quality of life, it really isn’t so hard.
Good for you making such a positive decision Nicone, I really hope it works out well for you all. I beleive it is so important to follow your instincts, even if it doesn’t work out, surely that is better than never having tried.
7 years ago, I left a highly-paid job, paid holidays, pension, car – but I was so unfulfilled. I decided to quit and try freelance work. My earnings can be erratic and there are times when I am so busy I don’t know what time of the day it is, then other times when I can take long breaks. But you, know, I have never regretted my decision for one nano-second.
Aas in any big life change, if our motives are sound, if we have assessed any risks and make our decisions considerately, all will be well.
Good luck to you.
Juliana, I appreciate your support, thank you very much! Good to hear you’ve never regretted making a similar change. With life, there is risk, right? Usually things work out well, thankfully.
Great post! Quite a big decision, too. Quitting your job can be scary, but I’m confident it will be a very rewarding one for you. My biggest struggle is not being a Monday morning quarterback for my own life, always worrying if I made the wrong decision. Truth is, in most cases it really doesn’t matter. Move forward and move on! You’re right, just make a decision and go with it. Otherwise, you’re just stuck in the mud.
Thanks a lot Janene! Yes I agree, making no decisions isn’t a very wise strategy. I believe it is much better to take a chance and see it through. Then, you get to make new ones! Change is a part of life and “stuck in the mud” is no way to live life. Good luck to you on this Monday morning!